Friday, March 1, 2013

Misconceptions of Marriage.

I am in the season of my life when everyone is getting married. Before we were married I had so many misconceptions of marriage. I think this is because you only know what you see and learn from everyone around you. My parents have been married 37 years and they were such an amazing example of what a marriage should be. So I based what I thought my marriage should and would be like off of what I had witnessed from my parents. This is what I thought...

-I thought you ate dinner together, went to sleep together, got up together and got ready for work together. This is not the case for us. Our schedules are so different that this is not normally feasible for us.

-I thought you slept just like the movies.... but it normally happens like the picture below. James gets pushed off the bed on a regular basis.

-I thought you were all happy honeymoon couple all the time and all of the fighting went away for at least a year. Now don't get me wrong, we do not fight like cats and dogs but it is completely normal to still disagree and argue sometimes.

-I pretty much thought marriage looked like this, no imperfections.

Marriage is not all rainbows and unicorns. It is exciting and the most fun I have ever had but it is not at all what I expected. I love my husband. I love spending every day with him. I love being a wife. But everyday is not perfect. Some days I would rather cut off my right hand than do laundry and clean the house. Some days I want to cut off James right hand for something stupid. But everyday I feel loved and cared for. Everyday I have a man that will stand by my side through everything and that is worth it. That is worth all the imperfect times. I am so glad that marriage didn't turn out how I thought it was supposed to be, because perfect is boring and we don't like boring!

1 comment:

  1. ...and the moral of the story is never let your kids hear the "differences of opinions" that occur in 37 years of marriage...LOL

    ...but through it all celebrate the small things as well as the large. No matter, what ... work it out and NEVER, EVER give up. One day, you will be so GLAD you did! It's worth it to enjoy watching your children as they begin their marriage journey...So proud of my children (B.J. and Jenna) and now our two new children (Leah and James) that God blessed us with through the wonderful gift of marriage. When your child is born begin praying for their spouse. I did just that when a very wise pastor gave me that advise...and God answered that prayer in a BIG way when he blessed us with our daughter-in-law and son-in-law. They truly love my children as much as I do.

    Place God first, one another second, then everyone and everything else will follow (learned this one the hard way) :)

    Remember, the best things in life are NOT things...(learned this one the hard way, too) :)